So what does it mean when someone says you have to set High standards for yourself? Most of us have heard this statement from people in regards to our work ethic, social circle, dating life or professional goals.
This basically means that the level of acceptance which we have set at the current moment in terms of the results from us SHOULD be more than what they are now. What we usually get wrong is that we start blaming or start finding faults with others when we go with this statement – that the person in front of us or the situation we are in is not the one we deserve. What is actually needed is that we have to step up and take the first initiative of expecting better RESPONSES from ourselves in such situations, than others.
When people see and notice this change in your response and behavior in regards to your expectations and conduct, they will naturally respond to the same in ways which will be in sync with your expectations or not. This happens because we humans have a “MIRROR MIND” which connects and interacts with circumstances which are most aligned with our thought process.
Thus, the people who do connect and associate with the results and outcomes you demand from yourself will be more inclined and motivated to step up on your terms of expectations. This process works as an automatic filter for you to find and get associated with people who correlate and respond to your current thought process and expectations. The ones who are not can go ahead on their path their own way, with or without you.
This supports and brings us back to the core of this article, that setting High Standards and expectations from yourself is regularly needed in order to progress and find people who can join in your journey to achieving those results.
Hansal Chhabra 